Speak harmoniously

To speak straight as it is can be dangerous because people who like to say things without considering others' feeling would only see things from their appearance.


Their only concern is their own feeling of "need to speak out loud" but would never think about others' feelings, perceptions and behaviours. As a result, talking without considering others' feelings can be bad to other people and also can worsen the problem. Surrounding people may eventually feel suffocated and then problems occurred.


We might be a good looking person, yet we haven't get any dates. Our co-workers would do their best to leave us alone. They would also be cautious around us otherwise they might get hurt from our way of speaking.


One day in an office party, Mr. Zhang met his co-worker who wear a new fitted blouse. It doesn't really suit her body shape and therefore Mr. Zhang told her: "Honestly, your shirt looks pretty. But when you wear it, it looks like a tank with a beautiful cloth wrapped around. I think you are a bit fat." This lady stared at Mr. Zhang and then leaved with anger. She never speak to him since.


Talking without any consideration can be cruel. Just like a sword, it can hurt other people and our self at the same time.
Anything can be gently delivered. Don't talk without considering others' feelings. To speak straight and plain without disguise can sometimes hurt.


Therefore, deliver our message nicely and we might get the respond we want. Think before we speak is the behaviour of matured person.