There are many times in our life when we feel angry . We are angry towards people, we are angry towards the world and even more we could get angry towards ourselves . We are angry because things are not going smoothly as we like. We are angry because of our dissapointment. We are angry because we could not fullfill our needs/desire. Even more, we could get angry because we are dissapointed with our own self .
Everytime we get angry, we'd like to express it through shouting, damaging and hurting people . But did you know, after we do all of those stuffs, the problem is still there and it won't go away ? Even more, we put our relationships with people around us like friends and family at stake. So what should we do ?
Lets read the following story:
One day, a teacher asked his students: "Why someone would often shout or talk loudly when he/she's angry?" After thinking for a while, a student answered: "Because at that time, he lost his patience and therefore he shout".
"But..." the teacher asked back, "the person he spoke to is standing just right to him. Why should he shout? Is it because he could not speak softly?"
Almost all of the students gave the reasons they could think of. However none of those answers are satisfying.
So the teacher said: "When two persons are angry to each other, their hearts are separated although they are close to each other physically. Therefore, they have to shout. But strangely, the louder they shout, the angier they become and the gap between their heart is getting bigger. As a result, they have to shout louder."
The teacher then continued: "On the other hand, what will happen when two people fall in love? They are not shouting but they speak softly and gently. No matter how soft they speak, both of them could listen to it clearly. How can this hapapen?"
The teacher then looked at his student and they all went into deep thinking but no one answering the question. Then he said, "It is because when two people fall in love, their hearts stay next to each other. At the end, even without a word, they could understand each other."
He continued, "When you are angry, don't keep a distance between your hearts. Even more, don't use words that could create distance between your heart and others. During this time, say nothing could be a WISE thing to do. Because TIME will help you going through this."
It is hard to control ourself when we are angry. However, sometimes we need to control our emotions for the sake of everything. We never want to do anything that'll make us regret once this anger is gone . Therefore, lets calm down and speak less when we are angry. Do something you enjoy and always tell yourself: "There is no unsolve-able problem in this world. All it takes is time and patience" .
Everytime we get angry, we'd like to express it through shouting, damaging and hurting people . But did you know, after we do all of those stuffs, the problem is still there and it won't go away ? Even more, we put our relationships with people around us like friends and family at stake. So what should we do ?
Lets read the following story:
One day, a teacher asked his students: "Why someone would often shout or talk loudly when he/she's angry?" After thinking for a while, a student answered: "Because at that time, he lost his patience and therefore he shout".
"But..." the teacher asked back, "the person he spoke to is standing just right to him. Why should he shout? Is it because he could not speak softly?"
Almost all of the students gave the reasons they could think of. However none of those answers are satisfying.
So the teacher said: "When two persons are angry to each other, their hearts are separated although they are close to each other physically. Therefore, they have to shout. But strangely, the louder they shout, the angier they become and the gap between their heart is getting bigger. As a result, they have to shout louder."
The teacher then continued: "On the other hand, what will happen when two people fall in love? They are not shouting but they speak softly and gently. No matter how soft they speak, both of them could listen to it clearly. How can this hapapen?"
The teacher then looked at his student and they all went into deep thinking but no one answering the question. Then he said, "It is because when two people fall in love, their hearts stay next to each other. At the end, even without a word, they could understand each other."
He continued, "When you are angry, don't keep a distance between your hearts. Even more, don't use words that could create distance between your heart and others. During this time, say nothing could be a WISE thing to do. Because TIME will help you going through this."
It is hard to control ourself when we are angry. However, sometimes we need to control our emotions for the sake of everything. We never want to do anything that'll make us regret once this anger is gone . Therefore, lets calm down and speak less when we are angry. Do something you enjoy and always tell yourself: "There is no unsolve-able problem in this world. All it takes is time and patience" .
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